Practice Makes Imperfect – And I’m Okay With That
Practice has been given a bit of a bum rap. Whether it's sports of some kind, one of the arts, or any other discipline of the mind or body, we often expect the impossible out of practice. That is, we expect to be made perfect at the pursuit. Or at least some aspect of...
How to Stop Random Thoughts During Meditation
One of the biggest misconceptions about meditation is that it will silence the mind. In fact, learning how to stop random thoughts during meditation has become the Holy Grail. But see, here's the thing. If meditation could silence the mind, our entire planet would be...
Etiquette of the Soul
Fundamentally, social manners consist of taking into account how people feel. Not in a scary, co-dependent way, but in a compassionate and inclusive way. Showing up on time, waiting your turn, please-and-thank-you…pretty basic stuff, really. But big and small, every...
Science Says…Picture Yourself Happy
The other day, a virtual stranger – a Twitter friend I’ve never met in person but have been interacting with for years – shared with me in private that she’d gotten married. Suddenly, unexpectedly. She found love where she least looked for it or anticipated finding...
The Language of Love
Perhaps you’ve tuned into a similarity of language in many voice-guided meditations. For example, in QuietSelf guided meditations, the words notice and now come up a lot. So does the suggestion to allow rather than a directive to take an action... references to the...
How Long Is Long Enough?
Even if you have just 5 minutes to relax, doesn't it feel great? There are days when you can relish a 5-minute break as though it were a mini-vacation. But with meditation – how long is long enough? What if you have just 1 minute? Can you experience benefits from a...
How Can You Tell When You’re Meditating?
Often, even people who’ve been meditating for years will express a concern that perhaps they’re not doing it right. After all, each of us has only our own experience of meditation, so there’s not any actual objective point of comparison. (Even if you're hooked up to...